Get Happier in 28 Days !

Did you know that 50% of your happiness is in your control? 10% occurs from circumstances around you? and the other 40% comes from your families genetics? No matter where your unhappiness is coming from you can get yourself a heck of a lot happier in just 28 days according to an article I found called called Get Happier in 28 Days from the Dr. Oz Show!

You do this in a four week time frame...
Week One: Keep a Daily Diary.
You see self awareness and think more critically about your daily reactions and emotions.
Week Two: Fake it Till You Make It.
Keep putting a smile on your face no matter the emotions your feeling. Try to increase the instances your run into with a smile on your face rather than the much stronger emotions, the negative ones.
Week Three: Create a Diversion.
Escape from drowning yourself in negative emotions.  If you are alone turn on your favorite song and jam out to it and if your in a group of people focus on the conversation your in rather than what is going on in your own mind.
Week Four: Random Acts of Kindness.
Send out a thank you letter that you have been planning to write for a long time. Mow a neighbors yard, pay someone money you owed then, or even send good fortunes to anyone you see. This will give you a positive feeling about yourself and a self-esteem boost to others around you, just by you being kind to them.

** i got these tips from the article i stated above.

Something to Realize...

Your confidence and self esteem may be altered by their words and abuse put towards you. Sometimes the one being controlled start doubting themselves as people and who they really are just by the hurtful words that they are getting told they are. They feel like they aren’t worth being on earth. Their next relationships are always damaged because there is no trust.

toxic relationship video coming soon!

I am making a personalized video on my chosen topic. My idea on the video would be to make a video interviewing teens and adults on their relationships. Showing good and bad relationships. Asking them questions on their relationship currently or past relationships. Also, talking and showing signs that the relationship is toxic without them knowing that it is toxic exactly. Hopefully you will all enjoy what the video brings! and please leave your views on if this is a good video idea :) input would be appreciated !

the video will be posted by the 13th of April.

tips on how to let go and get away of past relationships

1. remind yourself that you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it.
2. identify what the experience taught you- help you develop a sense of closure
3. write everything in a letter- you dont have to give it but it will help clarify your feelings and then see the reality of it.
4. remember the good and the bad.
5. un-romanticize the way you view love- your going to be sad and hurt when it ends but as long as you think that you can find another love thats amazing it will be easier.
6. create a space that reflects the present not the past- take down all the pictures of him/her, delete saved texts and emails.
7. reward yourself- once you get rid of the things that remind you of them, bring yourself out or go buy yourself something to reward your decision.
8. hang this statement somewhere you will see it everyday- Letting go is love, holding on is attachment.
9. replace your emotional thoughts with facts- resist the feelings of "ill never feel of find love again" to something you accomplished today.
10. let go of all the stress
11. cry it out- it will help your negative feelings release.





i found these tips on an article called 40 ways to let go and feel less pain by Lori Deschene

Emotional Vampires

This video is starring Margie Warrell, she is a life coach and a best selling author. This video is about how to get rid of and beat away emotional vampires, people who suck all the energy out of you. Showing you that you can cut them out of your life and be yourself without getting your energy ripped from underneath you. Always remember to keep a positive look on life and dont let anyone tell you different about life or yourself.

Take Time For Your Life and Yourself

If your questioning whether or not your relationship is emontionally draining you or if your stuck in the "am I in a toxic relationship...?" Take this quiz and you will soon know. Choose the person wisely, dont second guess yourself, and answer fast and honestly.


1. Write down the name of a person in your life.
2. Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted by him/her?
3. Is this person critical or judgmental of me?
4. Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
5. Do I feel upbeat and energized when I'm around this person, or depleted and drained?
6. Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
7. Is this person committed to our relationship?
8. Can this person celebrate my success?
9. Do I feel good about myself when I'm with this person?


 if after you take the quiz you want to know how to comfront that person because you want to better the relationship these three steps are ways to help you respectfully announce it. It tends to make it a conversation rather than an automatic arguement. Your goal doesnt have to be to save the relationship and just by saying these words doesnt mean everything is going to go away... it takes time!

Step One: Set the stage."In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to tell you the truth..."
Step Two: Follow up with how you feel."When you _______ it makes me feel ______..."
Step Three: Then ask your family member or friend."Are you willing to stop doing that?"

From Cheryl Richardson's book Take Time for Your Life

Barriers In Toxic Relationships

 Relationship abuse doesnt always start with physical and sexual abuse. Most of the time the relationship goes smoothly and then things start appearing more and more. Once the abusers feels you are comfortable with them and that your not going to leave the abuse starts. Most commonly it is mental abuse including name calling and so on. After they realize that you havent left them yet and your putting up with the emotional abuse, their true colors start to come out. Never tell yourself never. If you feel you might be in an abusive relationship, you probably are. Many victims are always questioning themselves on whether or not their are in an abusive relationship or not. Love in any real and legit relationship has love, respect, and trust. It doesnt have overwhelming jealousy and controlling thoughts. For example if your partner gets mad that you have a best friend of the opposite sex that you talk to and were close with before they were even in your life and then they all of a sudden make you close them off. Once you see that your partner is all your life consists of, thats the last chance you have to get out. Many victims families say how their son/daughter changed who they were and wouldnt tell information on their relationship and said it was "personal". Even people who seem like their lives are perfect can get caught up in toxic relationships. Watch out, and stay away from them, and always remember if you ponder the thought of being in a poor relationship... your probably in one.