Interview Questions

I interviewed Mrs.Fealy who is the counselor at Knights Academy. We have had many conversations on Toxic Relationships and that is why i decided to interview her. I asked her ten questions.

1) What are the major signs of a toxic relationship?

A: Abuse- verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and control.

2) who would you refer victims to?

A: depending on the situation. Rivers of Hope, Victims Advocate, MN Sexual Assault Center, or therapy.

3) How would you prevent a toxic relationship from occuring?

A: encourage and empower the person to make changes for the better. Work on educating them on what healthy relationships look like and how they want to see their future relationships.

4) Where do toxic relationships evolve from?

A: Sometimes it is past history of not knowing any different. sometimes you get in and dont know how to get out.

5) what do you think are the most dangerous aspects of toxic relationships?

A: abuse- all types

6) Who do you contact for help if you are in a toxic relationship?

A: school- social worker, teacher, counselor

home- parents or other family members

community law enforcement

7) What does a toxic relationship look like?

A: controlling. possible abuse- verbal, physical, emotional, sexual.

8) What is your definition of a toxic relationship?

A: I always think of the control piece- if someone is attempting to control some one else's thoughts, actions, beliefs etc. It is Toxic !

9) What does a healthy relationship look like?

A: fun loving caring equal partners helpful similar interests trust communication enjoy spending time together and apart have people in your life outside of your relationship.

10) How do you let go of a toxic relationship?

A: tough question! Get out- seek help build confidence and get out. Stay out- stay out of the situation dont go back no matter how much they say they. They try to persuade you back. It is not very often where toxic/abusive relationships can turn around fully.

seek assistance- get help to help you though the grief process- grieving the relationship.

Toxicity!

            Dysfunctional relationships occur when arguments, sadness, and lack of trust in one another is more common than healthy components such as being each others best friend, having loyalty, and being compassionate with one another. Yet, toxic relationships while similar have their own unique characteristics. Toxic relationships happen when one person in the relationship tries making constant demands, tearing you down, and trying to be superior over you. Most are involving physical, mental, financial, and even isolation problems. All relationships can be hard to maintain, but toxic relationships can become unbearable. Often times the questions surrounding the toxic relationship are: How can you not see it? How can you not identify the most obvious and heartbreaking signs? Maybe it is because they aren’t always that obvious. Sometimes the victim becomes so accustomed to the way they are treated that they become numb to the effects. When the victim does say something about it most abusers accuse the victim of blowing it out of proportion because they can’t accept the responsibility of their actions. That is because they have a personality disorder; making the types of people in relationships even more diverse. It can be very difficult to identify the signs because there are so many different categories within relationships and types of people within those relationships. Almost every relationship starts out with intimate connections with someone considered special. Some are lucky and achieve their wish; to find their prince or princess and share each others happiness. Others get caught up in a horrible downward spiral of nearly the complete opposite.

Support Systems!

Everyone needs a support system. No matter if your relationship is positive or negative. support systems are what keep people sane. Without them everyone would go crazy because they cant talk about their problems. No matter if they are younger, older, friend, or family. anyone can support you in many ways. You can get legal support if the abuse gets out of control and physical. You can have the ones that you go to just to vent. The ones you need to get help and advice from, and then the ones that need to do something about it because you cant. there are even hotlines that you can call to just talk or get help without people in your life knowing.

Mean

Taylor Swift has a song and it kind of relates to how some girls/ boys feel when they are in an abusive relationship. some have to good mindset that they are going to be able to leave and others dont. this video is showing the good mind set, if you havent experienced abuse this kind of shows some emotions victims have.

Mean
By Taylor Swift

Respect

Everyone needs to be respected. In toxic relationships respect is one of the main things not there that should be. if you are starting to be treated with disrespect , leave! dont stay in the relationship and think that your going to able to solve it and change it. chances are you wont be able too. Easy ways to give and get respect is by acting and living by the good old golden rule. treat others how you would like to be treated!

Change

I havent really had anything on Interventions yet so I'll touch base a little bit on it and how they dont always help the situation.
One thing that people think is that they can better others. No one will change just from someone telling them too. The only time someone will change or stop doing something wrong is when THEY want to change themselves. That is why interventions dont always work because just because everyone around you is telling you it isnt right doesnt mean that they think that way. Most users have a different mind set then the sober ones around them and that blocks out reality sometimes. Never think that you can CHANGE and addict. You can AFFECT them but no one besides the addict themselves can CHANGE them.

There is a show called Intervention on A&E.

They go through a lot of different kinds of families and interventions.

If you dont know what it is all about, catch an episode coming up soon!

http://bcove.me/6capi493

this is a preview to an episode and what it is all about.

Abusive Relationships