If your questioning whether or not your relationship is emontionally draining you or if your stuck in the "am I in a toxic relationship...?" Take this quiz and you will soon know. Choose the person wisely, dont second guess yourself, and answer fast and honestly.
1. Write down the name of a person in your life.
2. Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted by him/her?
3. Is this person critical or judgmental of me?
4. Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
5. Do I feel upbeat and energized when I'm around this person, or depleted and drained?
6. Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
7. Is this person committed to our relationship?
8. Can this person celebrate my success?
9. Do I feel good about myself when I'm with this person?
if after you take the quiz you want to know how to comfront that person because you want to better the relationship these three steps are ways to help you respectfully announce it. It tends to make it a conversation rather than an automatic arguement. Your goal doesnt have to be to save the relationship and just by saying these words doesnt mean everything is going to go away... it takes time!
Step One: Set the stage."In an effort to honor our relationship, I need to tell you the truth..."
Step Two: Follow up with how you feel."When you _______ it makes me feel ______..."
Step Three: Then ask your family member or friend."Are you willing to stop doing that?"
From Cheryl Richardson's book Take Time for Your Life
where do you learn all of this stuff?
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ReplyDeleteNice post. Those questions are good to ask in a relationship to see wether the time used is wasted or not too :] Although i am happy with mine. hehe.
ReplyDeletehaha, yes :) yours is a good one! but its like questions alot of people think but never look into!
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